My husband rapes me, yes he did,here is my story

Many people feel that being married is an excuse to treat your spouse badly. There have been many cases of household violence, abuse and neglect of women, married,in their homes but many feel that it’s a case that should be settled within the family or just the two spouses involved. That’s not supposed to be the case.

When I got married I felt strongly that I was moving into a wonderful phase in my life, during our courtship he did everything possible to make me feel comfortable, treated me with utmost respect and love. I fell head over heels for him. I was certain this was the man for me. He had a good job, a car, all the things that were associated with a successful and ambitious young man. My parents adored him and I was further convinced that this was my man.

After our marriage we moved into a three bedroom apartment, then I had just completed my youth service an was working as an intern with a marketing company. He was a banker. During the early years of our marriage, there was bliss and we had fully settled down and was ready to start our home.

I remember that afternoon when it all started,initially I never felt he was one to enjoy rough sex but after that day I began to deliberate seriously on the possibilities.I had just finished eating and had gone to our room to rest. I was texting a friend. He came into the room and unlike the romantic persuasion he used when he wanted to make love, he commanded me to remove my clothes. Not suspecting anything I did so, as we made love he occasionally hit my buttocks hard, slapped me and shoved my head to the pillow. When I tried to protest he asked me to shut up and not spoil the fun. It was very uncomfortable and painful for me.

After that day I began to feel uncomfortable,he had completely changed from the loving man he used to be to a cruel and violent person, only when it came to sex. He was always demanding and even when I cried out he would hit me more and force me to keep still.

It only became worse. He would tie me up forcefully and the sex was too painful. He slaps me repeatedly, punches me as well and sometimes whips me with his belt.

When I summoned courage to report the matter to my Step mom who raised me she told me it was disgusting for me to bring such issues about my private life to her and that I should learn to please my husband, that many women will kill for the opportunity.

Anytime I tried to reach out to my husband and ask why he treats me the way he does when he knows I don’t like it he says I’m an ingrate and disrespectful wife and that I’m his property .

During the wake of this vigorous protests against rapes I have decided to share my story. Isn’t it possible for a married man to molest his wife? Isn’t it right for her to run to the police if her family and friends won’t intervene?Is it only a single lady or a minor that can be raped?

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